How many opportunities have we missed simply because we did not ask for what we wanted? Maya Angelou says in one of her famous quotes, “Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it.” Why do we miss the chance to get the raise that we deserve, the love that we want, the best interest rates or simply a favor from a friend? Is it the fear of rejection? None of us wants to be rejected; it just doesn’t feel good. It makes us feel unimportant and unworthy.
Commit to changing that way of thinking. It will not happen overnight, but we can take small steps towards it. Think about this, what is the worse that can happen if we decide to step up and really begin to ask for the things that we want? We can be denied, turned down or yes, the dreaded word, rejected. Haven’t we all been there before? A better question is, despite us being turned down in the past, haven’t we all survived it? Yes! We’re still here! Okay, so we didn’t get what we asked for that time, but why stop? Sometimes a “no” can simply mean, “not now and try again later.” A “no” can also be an opportunity for us to recharge, regroup, reorganize and reflect. It can give us a chance to learn and grow from the rejection and come back stronger than before. Don’t miss that opportunity to thrive from that place of disappointment. After you’ve licked your wounds for a little bit, shake it off and move forward.
On the brighter side, what’s the best that can happen if you begin to ask for the things that you want? You guessed it! You will probably get them! Yes, it really can be just that simple, asking for what you want and actually receiving it. Ask for that airline seat up grade the next time you travel. Ask for that nice chic tote bag behind the perfume counter that you’d like to have as a “gift” with your purchase – sometimes they may forget to offer it to you so ask! Ask your boss for that raise that you believe you deserve. Ask your cell phone carrier for any extra bonus minutes or loyalty rewards that they may offer or ask for help from a friend when you need it. Seek out the love and respect you know you deserve and do not settle for less. When we begin to ask for the things that we really want, we will begin to feel more worthwhile and deserving. In return, it makes us more compassionate when others ask of us. It also says to the world, “I am not afraid to be bold and audacious. I’m not afraid of being told no. I will bounce back more empowered than ever!” And when we do get what we ask for, rejoice and celebrate and know that we deserve it!
What do you need to ask for?
